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Sunday, November 6, 2005 10:34 PM CST

Dear friends,

Well, it has been almost a month since Warren left this world. I wish I could say that every day gets a little easier, but it doesn't. Maybe it just took two or three weeks for the reality to set in, but my tears are flowing more than they did the first couple weeks.

I think initially I missed the Warren we had gradually been losing to cancer the past two years. Now I am missing the Warren I fell in love with, married and spent 15 wonderful years with. I miss my best friend. I love looking at the pictures of him from several years back.

I also find myself mourning the fact (again) that we were never able to have a child. I wish so that some of the cherished memories were of watching a small baby grow up. I watch Tiffany and Mirzet and think of how incredibly fortunate they are to have that joy that no one can take away from them.

I need to continually remind myself that God still has this whole thing in His plan. (I just don't happen to like this part of His plan very much right now because the parts of it I see aren't very much fun.) Fortunately, God is a gracious, patient God. He knows that I will come out on the other side of this dark grief and will be okay. I just don't happen to like the process.

More later,

Thursday, October 20, 2005 9:34 AM CDT

Dear friends,

I have been overwhelmed (in a very good way) by the outpouring of love and concern you all have showered on my family and me. I can almost feel Warren smiling down from heaven. I knew how special Warren was to me, but obviously he touched a great many lives. It has been such fun to hear the many stories about him. I am going to start writing them down in a journal so I will have them to always remember and perhaps more importantly, for Kenan to have. He will then get to know his grandpa a bit as he gets older.

My energy level and emotions have been all over the map. I miss Warren so much. But I do rejoice that he is pain-free and in heaven. I have just spent the past hour reading some of the many cards that have been sent. There are so many beautiful thoughts and words of encouragement. I have a special pile for the ones with verses that I want to write out and keep handy for those times when I need extra encouragement.

I will probably keep writing in here for a while because it is good therapy for me and I love having a way of sharing what God is continuing to do. I am confident that as the days pass we will see more and more of the reasons Warren needed to go through this. I know God has a wonderful purpose in it all. As one solo said "when you can't see God's hand, trust His heart." I am thankful that God shows us His loving heart so we can have faith in His hand.

In love,

Thursday, October 13, 2005 9:00 AM CDT

Dear friends,

I will put the info on today's visitation and funeral at the bottom of this page. Here is a link to the Star Tribune's obituary as well: http://www.legacy.com/startribune/LegacySubPage2.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonId=15369069

God continues to be good in many ways. The outpouring of love and concern is an incredible comfort. I still feel as if there is a gaping hole in my heart, but then, how could there not be?

If you are like us, we are remembering lots of stories about Warren - most are funny, but there are plenty of tender ones too. We are putting together a list of some brief rememberances of Warren. If you have some you would like to share, feel free to add them here, to the journal at the Star Tribune, or bring them along if you can make it to the visitation and/or funeral. We will also have a notebook at the funeral home you can write them in if you'd like.

This all still feels amazingly unreal. Part of me still wonders "Why?" But then I am reminded that at this point, not only does God know why, but Warren does too. He has been able to look into God's eyes and understand that there is a purpose in this. And Warren also has experienced God's love in a way that we have to wait until we get to heaven to experience. I'm envious of him.

Well, here is the info for today and tomorrow:

Thursday, October 13
5-8pm Visitation at Gearty-Delmore funeral chapel in Robbinsdale. Here is a link to their site: http://www.delmore.com Click on the Robbinsdale site to get a map.

Friday, October 14
One hour prior to service - visitation at Olivet
1pm Service - Olivet Baptist Church, 3420 Nevada Ave. N. Crystal, MN 55427

I love you all.

Tuesday, October 11, 2005 3:38 PM CDT

Please note the changes below in the location of the funeral for Friday, October 14.

We are so thrilled that so many of you are planning to be with us on Friday to celebrate Warren's life, the lives he touched and rejoice in his home-going. As a result, we are moving the service from our home church, Emmaus Baptist, to the church where Warren and I met and were married - Olivet Baptist Church.

Here is the basic info:

Friday, October 14
One hour prior to service - visitation at Olivet
1pm Service - Olivet Baptist Church, 3420 Nevada Ave. N. Crystal, MN 55427

The visitation Thursday night, Oct. 13 will still be from 5 to 8pm at Gearty-Dilmore Funeral Chapel in Robbinsdale.

I hope that doesn't cause any confusion for anyone.

How do you like the new picture? We thought the rock looked like God's hands. And there is Warren right in the center. We added a few other pictures of Warren. It makes it easier to remember his smile and twinkley eyes. We'll put more in the album later.


Monday, October 10, 2005 11:54 AM CDT

Dear friends,

Let me start by thanking you for all your kind thoughts, prayers, emails, etc. I am overwhelmed by the love that surrounds me. It really confirms how incredibly loved Warren was.

I need to get the basic info out there for you.

There will be a visitation at the Gearty-Delmore Funeral Chapel at 39th Ave. N and W. Broadway in Robbinsdale from 5 to 8 pm on Thursday, October 13th.

The funeral (wow, that sounds odd to say!!) will be Friday, October 14th at 1pm with visitation one hour prior. The funeral will be at Emmaus Baptist Church, 8025 Medicine Lake Rd. in Golden Valley.

More details later.

Saturday, October 8, 2005 9:13 PM CDT

Warren went home to be with the Lord at 4:45 this afternoon. Several of us were with him when he took his last breath. I can convey more tomorrow, but right now I just keep thinking that I am going to miss him so much. I just can't imagine life without him. It all feels so unreal.

I keep reminding myself that he is pain free now and face to face with our Lord. I just wish I was with him.

I need to sleep now.

We'll get more specifics on here in the next couple days, but at this point we are looking at the funeral being Friday afternoon.

Thank you for your continued prayers. Warren and I have felt so blessed by the love and concern all of you have expressed.


Friday, October 7, 2005 7:18 PM CDT

Well, here comes the hard stuff.

But let me start with a promise from God:

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed for I am you God. I will strengthen you, Yes I will help you. I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

I am clinging despirately to that promise that God is with Warren and me. And that he will help me and uphold us.

It looks at this point like we may only have Warren here with us for another 24 hours or so. Just think, by the time the next Lord's day comes, Warren could be with Him!!! I wish I could be there too.

Tiffany, Mirzet, Kenan and Carol are here right now. Tiff and Kenan will probably spend the night. What a joy to see the new life of Kenan as we watch Warren's life fade.

Hospice is wonderful. We have whatever we need to make sure Warren is comfortable. He has been sleeping a lot today, but is able to communicate. I love him sooooooo much. I am so thankful that we have had 16 wonderful years to know and love each other.

More later,

Thursday, October 6, 2005 10:40 PM CDT

Another quick update before heading to bed.

Warren is getting weaker every day. The hospice nurse commented when she was here today that she could see the decline since yesterday. Neither of us got much sleep last night and Warren decided this morning that we should ask for a hospital bed. He can't really walk by himself out to the recliner any more, so doesn't have the freedom to change positions the way he will with a hospital bed. So, since they don't make queen sized hospital beds, this will be the last night we will be able to sleep together in our bed. This is really hard. I know that I will still be able to snuggle in with him on the hospital bed sometimes, (I've done it plenty of times in the hospital) but there is a finality to taking down our bed that I'm having a hard time with.

I really don't feel I can leave Warren alone any more, even for a quick run to the store. I talked with Cindy, Warren's sister, tonight and I think she will be able to come back from Illinois to help us out next week. That will be so good.

I'll share more tomorrow.
Good night.

Tuesday, October 4, 2005 11:01 PM CDT

Just a quick note tonight.

It has been a very rough evening. Warren has been vomitting and is having more labored breathing. We upped the oxygen to 3 liters and that seems to be helping. He says the pain is under control, but he looks very pale and tired. When he stood up to go to bed, he nearly lost his balance.

I really feel like I'm starting to lose him. I know it has been coming, but tonight it feels more like it is on the doorstep.

I'd better get back to him. Hopefully a good night's sleep will help us both.


Saturday, October 1, 2005 10:22 PM CDT

An amazing day weather-wise for us here in Minnesota. 83 degrees on October 1.

There isn't much change here. Warren continues to get weaker, but still manages to spend some time every day in the recliner in the living room. I'm finding that I have to work hard at keeping track of what day of the week it is. I also have had to keep a notebook to mark off when I give Warren his meds. I sometimes feel as if my mind has developed multiple holes.

But one thing hasn't seeped out - the assurance that God is here, that He is in control and He loves us. I came across these verses the other day:

I will sing of the LORD's great love forever;
with my mouth I will make your faithfulness known through all generations.

I will declare that your love stands firm forever,
that you established your faithfulness in heaven itself.
Psalm 89:1-2

God's faithfulness is something firm for me to hold on to in this difficult time. Warren and I chose the hymn "Great is Thy Faithfulness" as a congregational hymn at our wedding. We intend to have it sung at his funeral (and mine too when the time comes.) It is a wonderful song with the reminders I continually need to keep focused on Him.

Thanks again for everything. I pray that you all will meet with God tomorrow as you worship Him. He is an amazingly personal God. And each of us can have a relationship with Him because of what Jesus did for us on the cross. I am so thankful that both Warren and I accepted Christ long ago and now have the glorious future He has promised us to look forward to.

I'm rambling again.
Love to all of you,

Thursday, September 29, 2005 11:00 PM CDT

Not a lot to update. Warren is a bit weaker every day, but is still able to get up and spend a good portion of each day in the recliner in the living room. No real nutrition, but he enjoys popsicles and a watermelon sorbet Carol put together for him. He has to be careful not to drink too much at a time as the stomach and intestines don't process stuff well.

The most positive thing is that although the body is fading, Warren is smiling and kidding around more than he has in the past couple weeks. He told me it just took some time for him to adjust. It is the old thing where guys process stuff internally while us females process by talking things out. I'm glad to see the twinkle in his eye return every so often. I was afraid it might have been gone and I'd have to wait to heaven to see it again.

Thanks again for being such wonderful friends. Warren and I feel rich beyond all measure.


Tuesday, September 27, 2005 10:28 PM CDT

What a beautiful sunny, warm day it was today. I love fall. The trees are starting to turn and the mums and other fall flowers look so good. Maybe I love fall so much because I know it is such a short time until winter is here. I like winter too, but it is different somehow. Every nice day in the fall feels like a special day to be treasured or (to use a word a good friend reminded me of today) cherished. This is how I am working at looking at each day Warren and I have together.

Today a special friend of ours and a friend of his drove down from Duluth and painted our deck for us. Wow! Does it ever look great. Warren felt well enough to go out and talk to them a bit.

Tonight we just realized that Warren has kidney infections again. He doesn't want to do any antibiotics, so I don't really know what this will mean. The good news is that it isn't causing him any pain at this point. We'll just have to watch and wait.

Every day Warren looks thinner to me. It is hard to see. But I try to remind myself that it won't be long until he will leave this human body behind and be complete in heaven.

Good night.

Monday, September 26, 2005 11:25 AM CDT

All of the wonderful family who were visiting last week went home over the weekend. It was a good time, but somewhat tiring for both Warren and me. Lots of emotions involved.

Yesterday was the last day of the TPN (nutrition) being pumped into Warren through the port in his chest. He can drink as much as he can tolerate, but the gut doesn't work very well, so we'll see how it goes.

I'm emotionally drained and so have very little on my agenda. My schedule basically will involve praying, eating, crying, praying, sleeping, holding my cat, remembering good times, dozing next to Warren, reading, praying, and leaning on good friends such as you.

I just feel down today. It is a good thing the sun is out here. Maybe I just need another nap next to Warren. I love being able to reach out and touch him when I wake up, or fall asleep holding hands.

I am thankful for the many verses of encouragement so many of you have sent. Being the slow learner that I am, I have found that the best thing for me is to print them out and tape them to mirrors, cupboard doors, etc. That way I am continually reminded of the source of my strength and hope.

Love in Christ,

Friday, September 23, 2005 10:10 AM CDT

Wednesday night was a wild night weather-wise around here. There were severe thunderstorms and some tornados throughout the area. We retreated to the basement when the warning sirens went off just as we were ready to sit down to eat. We grabbed the food, got everyone in the basement and had a picnic down there. We got wind and rain, but nothing severe in our neighborhood. Tiffany and Mirzet's area got hit much worse. A number of houses just a short distance from them were badly damaged. One of Mirzet's relative's home was hit especially bad. One person there was sitting in her living room one minute and the next had been picked up by the tornado, lifted over the house and set down in a tree. Amazingly, she just had scratches and bruises.

Warren only felt well enough to be out of bed for 15 or 20 minutes yesterday. He was very weak and was having some more pain. We have adjusted the meds a bit. Today is much better. He is up in his recliner and looks a lot better. Amazing how one appreciates hours that are good rather than looking for days or weeks as before.

Warren's Aunt Esther flew in yesterday from Nebraska. What a joy she is! Travel isn't easy so we appreciate the effort.

It is looking like it will be a beautiful fall day today. We look forward to enjoying it together.

Thanks for your continued prayers. We appreciate all of you so much.


Wednesday, September 21, 2005 10:35 PM CDT

It's been a couple days since I've updated you. Warren is doing pretty well. He gets very tired, but when he is up he does quite well. He had an especially good "talk" with Kenan today. They seem to have their own special relationship going. Kenan seems to work especially hard at communicating with Warren.

Warren's Dad, Elmer and his wife, Margie came in from Arizona last night. We've had a good time talking, but all of us seem tired.

Not a lot more at this point. My emotions go up and down. A good cry does wonders and reminding myself over and over again that God is still in control. And that He loves us.

I'll update more later.


Monday, September 19, 2005 9:29 PM CDT

Warren has been very tired all day. He'll be up in his chair in the living room for a while and then go back and take a nap. The good news is that the pain is under control.

We had a good but difficult discussion with the hospice people today. Warren is definitely ready to end the fight and go Home. He will keep using the TPN (nutrition & fluids) until after his Dad and his wife, Margie go home. They come tomorrow night and will go back on Saturday. Warren's aunt Esther is coming from Nebraska on Thursday and will head back on Sunday. So, we will probably have the hospice nurse take the needle from his port on Monday morning.

Despite all the media information to the contrary during the big Terry Shival case in Florida, we have been assured by several different hospice nurses that this is not a painful way to die. We don't know how long it will take, but Warren will not suffer. I've had a harder time dealing with this than Warren has. He continues to be very strong and courageous. I know it is what he wants, but part of me wants to grab on and keep him here on this earth longer. But I think he is hearing God calling him home. I love him too much to ask him to stay.

Thank you all for your wonderful notes. So many of you I don't even know. But I know we will meet when we all get to heaven. At that point we will look back on this time and wonder why we tried to hang on to this earth so tightly.

I'm tired. Will update more tomorrow.

Sunday, September 18, 2005 2:56 AM CDT

Can't sleep so thought I'd update you on how things are going here.

Saturday morning Warren felt good enough to take a shower. It really took all the energy he had though. But after resting a bit afterwards he was able to enjoy the afternoon. And it was a special afternoon.

Our former neighbors and great friends the Olbys came down from Duluth to visit. Their son Adam and his girlfriend came over. And Tiffany, Kenan and Josh (Tiff's brother) stopped by too. I was worried for a bit that it might be too much for Warren. But it was an outstanding time of conversation and laughter. What an incredible blessing!

As I have looked back on the "crisis" with Warren on Thursday evening I have been reminded of a truth that came through it. God doesn't always keep us from difficult times, but He ALWAYS provides what we need to get us through them. Look at how He took care of us.

When Warren had his "spell" we weren't alone. Not just that we weren't alone, but one of the friends visiting at the time is a doctor. My sister, Carol (also a doctor) had worked that morning and was off that afternoon and evening and so was here in a flash. She was also off on Friday. Also, Cindy (Warren's sister) who decided to come from Illinois had brought her lesson plan book home that night. She said that she never brings it home on Thursday nights. But she did, so she had it so she could get things pulled together for her friend who subs for her.

Don't we have a great God? Yes, I would dearly love for God to decide to heal Warren (I keep reminding Him that now would be a great time for that) but He has reassured me that regardless of what happens, He will provide everything we need.

Forgive me for rambling. I guess I'm using this as my own personal blog. But don't you just sometimes feel like God is teaching you so much and is so real and so good, you just have to share it? And you, dear friends, are my captive audience.

Love to all of you,

Friday, September 16, 2005 10:18 PM CDT

Praise the Lord, Warren is doing much better today. By morning his fever had broken and he has improved throughout the day. There is some question as to whether or not he might have pneumonia, but he has made the decision not to take any antibiotics.

We have been able to keep the pain under control so he has been able to cough up a lot of the "gunk" in his lungs.

Warren's sister, Cindy, has come from Illinois and it is wonderful having her here.

Thanks for all your prayers, calls, emails and cards. We feel so blessed.

Love, Kath and Warren

Thursday, September 15, 2005 10:46 PM CDT

I'm not sure where to begin. Had I written this 7 hours ago I would have said that I was really encouraged. Warren had been sleeping well and I was hoping he was on his way to regaining some strength.

Then he suddenly got a lot of pain and got a fever (102.8) I called the home health care nurse and she said we should bring him in to emergency. Warren said no. He is done fighting it. We've gotten some pain meds into him and he is resting more comfortably now.

I don't know where we stand. I love him so much, but can't beg him to stay and endure more pain. I only wish I could be going to heaven with him. We've done a lot of traveling together but that would be the ultimate trip.

I'll update in the morning. I'm glad God knows what is going on and what good will ultimately come from this. I'm clueless.

Love, Kath

PS Thanks to all of you who have been sending all types of cards. We love them.

Wednesday, September 14, 2005 12:51 AM CDT

It sometimes is hard to know what to put in here. We seem to go up and down so fast that by the time I've put something in, Warren's situation has changed.

The antibiotics are helping a lot with the infection in Warren's intestines. The diarrhea is less often now and the vomitting is also less often. He has had more nausea and vomitting in the past five days than all of the 20+ chemo cycles over the past two years.

He and I have learned to prepare, attach and start his TPN. This is the bag of nutrition he receives each day now. He still can have only ice chips and a minimal amount of water. The TPN runs on a pump for 12 hours. We have been running it at night, but starting tomorrow, will do it during the day instead. It isn't letting Warren get enough sleep at night. He has to get up 3 times during the night to empty his urine bags. (The TPN is equivalent to something like 4 cans of pop.) It will be a bit of a hassle to have to carry it around in a backpack all day, but we think it will be worth it for a good night's sleep.

Once again we are thankful for insurance that covers costs of home health care and the TPN. (Each bag of nutrition costs $1200.)

Here is the verse that God gave me this morning:
The Lord is my light and my salvation,
whom [what] shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life,
of whom [of what] shall I be afraid? Psalm 27:1

(For those of you into Veggie Tales, this verse brought to mind the song "God is bigger than the boggie man..." Okay, so the elementary teacher in me has never gone away!)

God is good and is the one thing that remains wonderfully constant. I am thankful to have Him to grab on to. And it is comforting to know that when I reach out to grab onto Him, I find that He already has me in his arms, so it isn't far to reach.

Love to all of you, Kathleen

Saturday, September 10, 2005 6:08 PM CDT

And I thought I was tired before!!! Warren and I are dealing with a lot of emotional exhaustion.

The home health care nurse came last night and all went well with the IV, etc. The bag of nutrition is somewhat equivalent to several cans of pop/soda and so Warren was up 3 times during the night having to empty his urine bags. Also, the tide has turned from constipation to diarrhea. (Is it possible that too many of you are praying about the constipation problem? - I know - theologically not possible!!!) But in any case, the diarrhea has become significant enough that I called the doctor today. Warren is back on some anti-biotics. Apparently, it is not uncommon following what has been going on with him for there to be an infection of this sort in the intestines.

Please pray for encouragement for Warren. (There can never be enough encouragement!) It is a really hard time. I am hopeful that the antibiotics will kick in and he will start feeling better tomorrow.

We had a wonderful visit today from Warren's Aunt Ellen and her son, Ron. Relatives are wonderful. We so appreciated their driving from Milaca and Hastings to be here.

More later,
Loads of love to all of you,

Friday, September 9, 2005 3:02 PM CDT

Warren was able to come home from the hospital this afternoon. Praise God! It is so good to have him here. He is currently sleeping in his recliner.

Home Health Care will be here at 7 tonight to continue teaching me how to start his IV nutrition bags. I also need to learn how to test his blood sugar after the IV finishes. I will be giving him a shot every day for blood clotting. Home health care will be here as much as we need. But it sure looks like I'm going to be learning a lot about nursing.

I'll write more later, but right now I think I will follow Warren's lead and take a nap. I am absolutely exhausted - but very happy he is here and will be in his own bed tonight.

Thanks for all the wonderful cards. He is loving them. (me too!)

Love, Kath

Thursday, September 8, 2005 9:59 AM CDT

Just a quick note this morning to update you. Yesterday was a really tough day, but overnight and again this morning Warren's bowels started moving. Once again I am amazed at the joy that comes from bodily functions working the way God intended!!! This will relieve a lot of the pressure in Warren's stomach. Yesterday the doctor was talking about the options regarding putting tubes in surgically to drain his stomach. I hope that means that those options are at least delayed.

Have to run but will update again soon.

Thank you for all of you who are praying for us. A number have emailed me verses that have been so incredibly comforting. God has really blessed us with wonderful friends.


Tuesday, September 6, 2005 8:02 PM CDT

Warren's white blood cell count is coming up. They did a CT scan this afternoon and so will find out tomorrow more of what the plan is.

Monday morning Warren's brother, Ken, surprised us with a visit from Colorado. It's been good to see him and touch base.

Warren is still not able to take anything other than ice chips by mouth. Hopefully they will come up with something to get the whole digestive track back doing what it is supposed to do soon.

Tiffany and Kenan are in Bosnia right now. They are due back on Sept. 12. We miss them and can hardly wait for their return. (and if we miss them a lot, imagine how lonesome Mirzet is with them gone!) Apparently, Kenan's first plane ride across the ocean went very smoothly - he slept through most of it.

Thanks for your continued prayers.
Warren and Kath

Friday, September 2, 2005 9:39 AM CDT

It has been a while since we updated again. Warren was admitted to the hospital on Wednesday night (Aug. 31). He has a kidney infection which they are now treating with antibiotics. But he also hadn't been able to keep any food or fluids down for a day or so. His white blood cell count and platelet counts are very low. So low, in fact, that they have put him in a more isolated area so he is less likely to pick up any of the nasty germs that float around in hospitals.

There are some other issues too, but nothing can be done about them until the white blood cell count gets higher. That will take another 2 to 4 days. Needless to say, Warren is not thrilled with the idea of being there all that time.

When I got home from the hospital last night and was getting ready for bed, I saw the verse below on the mirror (yes, I'm still working on memorization, but not doing very well with it) and it really hit home to me. God knew I needed the encouragement.

Fear not, for I am with you;
Be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you.
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10

Love, Kathleen

Friday, August 19, 2005 11:39 AM CDT

This week has been a eventfull week and looks as it will continue to be obnoxous. Tuesday I had my tubes changed that drain the urine from my kidneys. The procedure went very quickly and the pain was minimal untill the drugs wore off and then ouch!! Then Thursday I started another round of chemo. My experience is that the first week I have to take enough pills to be sleepy most of the time. Days 6 thru 10 can be very difficult to deal with. We are trying several new stratagies to eleveate the problems.
We continue to desire your prayers and your encouragement. Please leave message to us on the Guestboard.


Monday, August 8, 2005 8:04 AM CDT

Last Friday I was scheduled to begin another round of chemotherapy, but my white bloood (sp) count was again too low to take the drugs.
This week my brother is visiting from Alaska, and my sisters are coming from Florida and Illinois. We plan on spending a lot of time remininescing about our growing up years.
I will need to have my kidney drain tubes the following week. and then more chemo. Warren

Sunday, July 31, 2005 7:17 PM CDT

Thanks for the many prayers that our many friends and family have raised to our Saviour.
Last week was one of the best weeks I have had in the past six months. Kathleen and I took a trip to Duluth, MN. where we spent the thursday night, courtesy of Kath's sister Carol Featherstone at the Inn on the Lake in Canal Park. Friday night we spent with some good friends Tom and Dar Olby. Tom and Dar were our nieghbors in Brooklyn Center for almost 10 years.
We are so encouraged that the chemo again seems to have an effect and has pushed the cancer backwards.

Wednesday, July 27, 2005 10:35 AM CDT

Just a quick note to let everyone know that things a looking a whole lot better.
We have begun to notice a pattern emerge as I tke my chemo. First, the new medicine (xeloda) seems to cause constipation in Warren. Next,the first few days of a chemo cycle Warren sleeps a lot and tend to dehdrate. This is really bothersome to Kathleen. Lastly, days 7-10 are a low point for Warren as he seems to go thru a kind of withdrawal from the massive doses of anti-nasuea pills. And then Warrens immune systems and bloood(sp)numbers fall for about 6-7 days.
We so gratefull for friends and family who pray for us and continue support us. Many many thanks Warren Gilder

Thursday, July 14, 2005 9:30 AM CDT

We had a wonderfully busy time last weekend with lots of Kath's relatives here. It is fun seeing the newest members of the family. Those smaller ones sure keep things lively!

Warren has been feeling pretty good this week. But he is still pretty weak. Eating has been going fairly well, but the current diet restrictions have made meal planning a challenge for Kath. Hopefully the doctor will let us go back to a less restrictive diet soon.

Tomorrow Warren has chemo again. We are both having a difficult time anticipating it. Just not ready to handle the tough week that always follows it.

I added some new pictures. I need to work a little more on sizing them, but it is something new.

More soon,

Sunday, July 10, 2005 7:21 AM CDT

Warren came home from the hospital Friday. It is so good to have him home. He was really anxious to get out of the hospital too. Seven days is a very long time.

He continues to feel good, although gets tired pretty quickly. We have a long list of foods he isn't supposed to eat. He is on a low residue, low fiber diet. But he has managed to gain some weight back and so all is looking much brighter.

We are having about 15 people over for a picnic this afternoon, so better get going here.

Once again, I want to thank all of you who are watching this site and continue to pray for Warren. I know there are some of you we don't know well or haven't even met, but God has put a burden on your heart to pray. We know that this makes a difference.


Thursday, July 7, 2005 10:22 PM CDT

It's been a couple days since I've updated Warren's status. He continues to feel better. It looks as if he will be able to come home tomorrow. He still isn't on solid food, and has been having a hard time keeping his potasium and magnesium levels up. But overall, things are moving along well. (In more ways than one :) )

We are hoping that he will have gained enough strength to enjoy a special weekend with relatives coming from St. Louis and my niece, Rachel, and her daughter are here visiting from England. We plan a big picnic here on Sunday afternoon. It will be a great time to show off our new grandson as well.

God most certainly is good. What a comfort to rest in the shelter of His care!


Tuesday, July 5, 2005 10:28 PM CDT

We are rejoicing tonight!!!

Without going into great (and somewhat explicit) detail, we'll just say that Warren is feeling much better tonight. The pressure in the colon is greatly relieved. And they didn't have to put in the stent. There still needs to be some "cleaning out" tomorrow, but the overall picture is much more positive than it was at this time yesterday.

He is weak and will be for a while, but I think we can deal with that.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he will be able to come home tomorrow. I sure miss him when he is in the hospital.

Thank you again for your prayers, calls and notes. We are so blessed with so many wonderful friends.

More soon,

PS. One oddity we have discovered on this caringbridge website is that I can't put in the word for the red stuff that flows through your veins. So, if you see me misspell it, it is intentional. (i.e. blod)

Monday, July 4, 2005 9:14 PM CDT

Happy 4th of July!

It was a beautiful day here, but didn't have a chance to be out to enjoy it. They did another CT scan on Warren this morning. The current thought is that there is a narrowing in a portion of the colon which is restricting the flow. It probably is more cancer growing in his abdomen and squeezing it in much the same way it squeezed the ureters.

They will try putting a stent up into the colon tomorrow. If successful, this will open the colon up so all will flow properly. They hope to be able to do it tomorrow. It depends on whether or not they have the stent in inventory and Warren's numbers on his blod thinner.

It has been a bit of a blow to realize that the cancer is continuing to grow. We know that it is the reality of the situation, but I keep hoping that God will still step in and cure him.

I will fill you in tomorrow on the success of the procedure.


Sunday, July 3, 2005 10:44 PM CDT

Well, I was hoping that tonight I would be able to give some good news about Warren. Unfortunately, the procedure today was not successful. In addition, early this evening he had an "episode" that we can't understand. His pulse jumped to 130, oxygen in his system dropped to 90, etc.

Fortunately, we have a very aware nurse who called in an emergency team who came on the run. They quickly ruled out a heart attack. Got him on oxygen and put their heads together as to what to do next. He was very bloated and uncomfortable.

At this point, although he is bloated (excess fluids?), his input is considerably more than his output. Why this is we don't know. But they are trying some things tonight and tomorrow will do another CT scan.

Please continue to pray. We know that God is in control. He is a good God and loves Warren more than any of us. (How do people get through such things without knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that God is by their side, loves them and is in control? I am thankful for the peace God gives in the midst of turmoil.)

The highlight of the day was a visit by Tiffany, Mirzet and Keenan. Grandpa definitely felt well enough to hold Keenan and they appeared to have a very special conversation together. You should have seen the smiles Keenan had for grandpa (and Keenan is only 10 days old. Obviously, he is a very special, intuitive child!!!) God provides joy in the midst of difficult times.

Stay tuned for updates. Thanks for all your kind support.


Saturday, July 2, 2005 10:40 PM CDT

Just a quick update and prayer request. Warren was admitted to the hospital yesterday (Friday, July 1) because of acute constiptation. His colon is compacted and is not moving anything through. We had done everything we could at home but had no success. They have tried several things at the hospital yesterday and today and still have not had any success. If nothing moves overnight they will have to do a slightly more invasive procedure. There is some concern because of his low white cell count (so he wouldn't be able to fight any infection) and because of the medication they have been using because of previous emboli. He is quite uncomfortable and hasn't been able to sleep well. Please pray for him and the success of this procedure tomorrow. He is in an isolation room so he will not catch any other "bugs" floating around the hospital. He needs to wear a mask when he leaves his room. They gave him some medication today which should help to boost his immune system.


Thursday, June 23, 2005 2:26 AM CDT

Keenan Paul Zenkic came into the world and into the loving arms of his parents, Tiffany and Mirzet, at 12:17 this morning. He is 7 pounds 1 oz; 19.5 inches long and has a beautiful head of dark hair. He is perfect. (Can you guess that there are two VERY proud, VERY happy grandparents here???) Tiffany is doing well. Mirzet was a fantastic source of encouragement for her.

We will download pictures and give more updates in the morning. But right now we are just praising God for the good health of Tiffany and Keenan. Birth really is a wonderful miracle.

Tuesday, June 7, 2005 2:10 PM CDT

Life is good and fulfilling as we continue the struggle against the Cancer. Thanks so much for your continued prayers and concern.

Two weeks ago Warren had another round of chemotherapy, and it struck Warren very hard this time and so he discontinued the third drug (5FU). This drug was being given thru continuous infusion via a pump attached 24/7 for 3 weeks. The last 2 weeks were suspended.

Warren is considering trying a different drug therapy with the hope that the side effects will be more manageable and more effective. Dr. Lee has said that the cancer is no longer under control. Warren has lost considerable weight, which is bitter/sweet for him. As many of you know Warren has struggled with his weight for years. He is some somewhat happy that his weight is less than 200 lbs.

Many friends have helped Warren and Kath with many projects around the house. This is greatly appreciated.

Warren's daughter Tiffany continues to be very anxious for her first baby to come. More info to follow.

Friday, April 22, 2005 12:38 AM CDT

Thanks so much for all of your prayers. I apologize for my laziness in not updating this web site as often as I should.

The last several weeks have been difficult to deal with. After my last stint in the hospital for a pulmonary embolism, (Wow! has it really been 3 weeks!) Dr. Lee has put me on Warfarin, {(Coumadin)a blood thinner}. I have needed a blood test almost every day to determine my blood’s clotting ability. And many of the days I have also needed shots of Lovenox, twice a day, in the stomach (which Kath has been doing with a little too much enjoyment). The Lovenox is a fast acting blood thinner. Getting the right Coumadin dose on a daily basis has been a problem, because so many things interact or interfere with it. I started another round of the Chemotherapy during that time which includes about 20 anti-nausea pills every day for a week. I trust that now that I am through with the major portion of the drugs we can establish a baseline dose.

(By the way, the new picture is from October, 2001 when we were narrowboating in England. Kath really likes this picture of Warren in his “jester” hat which he picked up at a flea market. It was a great trip. Kath is vowing to scan in some pictures from other memorable trips. We’ll add some to the photo gallery for you to enjoy at some point soon.)

Saturday, April 2, 2005 10:17 PM CST

Warren was able to come home last night about 9:15pm. It was really good to have him home. At this point he has to go in every day to have a blood test. The cumadin (sp?) (blood thinner) takes a while to get to the level they want it at. So, after the blood test, they call me and tell me what dosage he should get that evening. I also have been giving him the shots in his stomach morning and evening. That is only until the blood levels get to where they want them to be.

He and I are both really tired. We slept for a couple hours this afternoon. He is feeling pretty good though. The pain is under control and he hasn't needed any extra pain medication today.

Once again we are very thankful for friends and relatives who continue to shower us with love. We are very blessed. It is a little hard right now adjusting to this new "thing." I'm sure in time it will become as routine as changing the dressings on the nephrostomy tubes.

We will find out on Monday when they want Warren to start chemo again. It had been scheduled for last Wednesday, but obviously didn't happen.

Thanks for your love,

Thursday, March 31, 2005 10:04 AM CST

Warren was admitted to Methodist hospital on Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. He was in a great amount of pain. The main thing they have found is that he has some blood clots in both lungs. He is currently in ICU so they can monitor him, but he said this morning that they will be moving him to another floor sometime today.

The pain is under control and he is getting medication to thin the blood. They anticipate he will be home in a couple days. He called me this morning and laughed telling me that the doctor said he will need to continue getting one medication by shot in the stomach every day for a while. So, I will be doing that. (As he said - revenge will be sweet for me. He had to give me daily shots when we were going through some infertility stuff. Now it will be my turn to give him shots!)

Thanks for your prayers and kind words. Here is a verse that has been special to me: Romans 11:33-36: Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out! Who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor? Who has ever given to God, that God should repay him? For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever!

I am thankful for a God who knows more than I do. That He loves us and is control of all of this seeming chaos around us. It is one thing I can cling to and realize that as hard as I am clinging to Him, He is clinging to me even stronger.


Wednesday, January 26, 2005 10:14 PM CST

Again we find that it has been a long time since we have updated our website. This is because there hasn't been a lot of medical news to pass on.

The holidays were a little rough, but since the first of the year, Warren has been feeling much better in spite of continuing on chemo. There was a rough week mid-January when his kidney drainage tubes were replaced. Those are doing well again now.

The treatment plan at this point is to be on chemo for four weeks and then off for four weeks. The hope is that Warren will have 2 to 3 rough weeks followed by 4 to 6 good weeks. We are hopeful it will work out this way.

The most fun news is that Tiffany and Mirzet are expecting a baby in mid-June. The thought of being grandparents is exciting for both of us. We were with them at the doctor's today and saw the sonogram/ultrasound. Wow! what a miracle to see the little person moving around, yawning, etc. They have chosen not to know the sex of the baby. However, we have been given a sealed envelope with this vital information. In the future check back to this website for the opportunity to vote as to whether you think it will be a boy or a girl. In either case, this small one will be dearly loved by all. (And most likely spoiled by grandparents!!!)

Love to all,
Warren and Kath

Tuesday, November 23, 2004 2:31 PM CST

This week is doing better than last week. Warren is able to be eating more which really helps our spirits. There is still more pain than we had anticipated, but we are hoping that staying consistent with the pain meds will help to keep it under control. He has been sleeping a bit better too which makes a big difference. We still have a long way to go, but a lot of the "heaviness" of the past week has lifted. God really does provide the grace we need when we need it. (I knew that before, but it became more real to me the past few days when I really needed that extra boost of grace to get through each day.)

I finally got some pictures included from our trip to Alaska. We had such a great time with Floy (Warren's brother), his wife Jannana and the kids - Lincoln, Kim, Jason and Jon. (Eddie is at a private school so we missed him.)

More soon, Kath

Sunday, November 21, 2004 8:41 AM CST

Sorry we haven't gotten this updated this week. It has been a difficult week. Warren started chemo again on Monday and was able to come home from the hospital that evening. It is good to have him home.

Unfortunately, he is still very limited in what he can eat. And a liquid diet gets very old very fast. Add to that the effects of chemo and it has been rough.

Please continue to pray that Warren is able to eat without experiencing pain. Our spirits have been sagging this week as well. But we are confident that God will help us adjust to this new situation and find His joy again soon.


Sunday, November 14, 2004 9:56 PM CST

Kath here again. Warren is still in the hospital, but is doing much better. The CT scan they did Saturday morning has shown that there is a mass squeezing his small intestine. This is what had caused the severe pain as food was not able to pass through as usual. By putting him on a clear liquid diet and giving him a lot of IV fluids the pain has subsided to the point where he has needed no pain medication today.

Monday we expect that they will start chemo again. Please pray that it will be as effective in shrinking the mass as it has been in the past. We are hoping that it will respond quickly so he will be able to begin eating more normally again. (Imagine only being able to eat clear liquids while the rest of us enjoy Thanksgiving dinner!!) We haven't talked to his regular oncologist yet about what options there are if it doesn't respond.

Warren's spirits are improving greatly.

I'd like to take a minute here to thank specifically the absolutely wonderful church family we have at Emmaus. The kindness, love and caring they have shown us over the past 15 months have been an incredible blessing. They have prayed faithfully, provided meals, cleaned our gutters, sent cards, etc. etc. We are so fortunate. I can't begin to imagine how people deal with such things without a church family like this. God is so good in providing them for us.

Now I feel like I should mention all the others of you who have been there for us - but there are so many. I thank you all.

Love, Kath

Saturday, November 13, 2004 7:26 AM CST

Hi, This is Kath doing a quick update and asking for your prayers. Warren was admitted to Methodist Hospital last night after having lots of severe stomach pain over the past three days. The pain meds we have at home weren't able to control it and he was not able to eat or drink much. They will try to do a CT scan this morning, but so far he hasn't been able to keep down the contrast he needs to drink. I'll keep you updated as we learn more.

We are thankful that we had a great time in Nome, Alaska (despite kidney infections) visiting Warren's brother and family. What a wonderful time we had with all the kids! I will try to update our pictures soon.

God continues to encourage me (and believe me - I need it!)I read this morning from Psalm 73 - You wisely and tenderly lead me, and then you bless me. You're all I want in heaven! You're all I want on earth! When my skin sags and my bones get brittle, God is rock firm and faithful!

Thanks again for all your words of encouragement. They are an incredible blessing for both of us. Kath

Thursday, November 11, 2004 2:10 PM CST

We had a PET scan last month and I neglected to give you the results. The scan did not show any significant areas of tumor. This may sound like good news but since we know that the tumor in my stomach has affected my bladder function, it may mean that the cancer is growing in thin sheets and not enough to show on the diagnostic tests. I am continuing to have pain in my stomach and noticing a sensation of fullness after a smaller meal. This again may mean a progression of the cancer within my stomach wall. The cancer prohibits expansion of the stomach as a meal is consumed.
I am planning to go back to the Chemotherapy some time in the next few weeks. Warren

Wednesday, October 13, 2004 9:36 PM CDT

Good news!! I have had all stents removed and the pain deep in my kidneys has subsided. I still have pain around the incision sites where the tubes come out of the small of my back. I have both of my kidneys draining into two small bags that hang off of my waist. This is a nuisance and extremely annoying, but it is considerably less painful and restrictive than the stents. The bandages need to changed every other day and protected from getting wet during a shower. Replacing the bandages has been Kath's job and she has been a doing a great job.

I have a PET scan scheduled for October 16th to determine the progression of the cancer in my body. Hopefully this will help me determine when to return to the chemotherapy. My oncologist, Dr. Lee would like me to return as soon as possible. Right now I think that it will most likely be in early November. I will recieve 2 one month cycles and then take another break - for Christmas and Cancun in January.

We are again planning a trip to Alaska to visit my brother Floy and his family in Nome AK. We will fly out of Chicago on the 26th of October, to save money. ($500 vs. $1000 out of Minneapolis) We will visit family and friends along the way to Chicago.

Thursday, September 30, 2004 9:13 PM CDT

If you have not checked this page in the last two weeks, please have a look at the journal history page.

On Wednesday Sept.29, I woke up and realized that my left kidney was not draining as it should. I was having pain in the small of my back just to the left of the spine. As the day progressed the pain began to increase and the output from the bladder decreased even further. Just the Thursday before I had had surgery to connect the right kidney to an external bag. As a result I knew that the left side stent was plugged. I made an appointment to visit my urologist Dr. Uke that afternoon. A surgery was setup for that evening and it required an overnight stay in the hospital.
I was released at 10:30 am and spent the day resting. The pain has subsided as long as I do not move. Any moving around and the pain spikes upward.
Thanks so much for your prayers and concerns. I have grown to appreciate the large number of friends that have been very supportive and helpful. Warren

Thursday, September 23, 2004 8:27 PM CDT

Wow an update within a week!! If you missed the last update check out the Journal page.

Today I was scheduled for a stent change on both the left and right ureters. The procedure was to begin at 10AM, but it took a little longer before I got in. They were able to change the left stent easily, but found that the right ureter was squeezed so tightly that they couldn't insert a new stent. They are assuming that it is the cancer that is growing around the ureter. They weren't able to even get a dye to run through and so had to put me in for additional surgery later in the afternoon.

They put a tube through my back into the kidney to drain the right kidney. Hopefully, this is just a stop-gap for a couple weeks at which time they will try to run the stent in through this tube, through the kidney and into the ureter. Which will enable them to remove the tube from my back.

Please pray that this procedure (now scheduled for October 11 will be successful. Needless to say, we are very disappointed with today's results. It is difficult to adjust to an external catheter and bag. Pray that we will be able to stay infection free during this time as well.

Thanks for your continued support and words of encouragement.

Saturday, September 18, 2004 7:47 AM CDT

It has been two months since I have updated the webpage. I'm embarrassed.

Last night we celebrated the wedding of Tiffany and Mirzet, Warren's daughter and new son-in-law. It was a grand celebration. We saw many friends and met new people whom we will enjoy getting to know as part of our new extended family. The wedding ceremony was outside and the weather cooperated - about 70 degrees and no rain (although clouded over). (One of the highlights was Warren giving the message. He did an outstanding job. - Kath)

My health has been improving steadily. I decided to take a break from chemo in order to feel as good as possible for the wedding. Although my activities are still quite restricted by the stents in my ureters, overall I feel good. A one-day surgery is scheduled for Thursday, Sept. 23 to replace the stents. It is common for them to need to be replaced every 3 months or so.

I will be trying to updeate more often in the future.

Monday, July 19, 2004 1:07 PM CDT

This morning we had another renogram with lasix, to test the function of the kidneys. The good news is that the left kidney is now doing some of the job of removing of the kreatine from the blood stream. It appeared to my untrained eye that left kidney was doing about 30% of the job and leaving 70% for the right kidney. The doctor assured me that this is to be expected at this point of the recovery of the left kidney.

Thanks for your continued prayers and support. I was reminded at church yesterday by the offertory soloist. "When we can't trace his hand, trust His heart." Many times I have wondered why God has allowed me to have this cancer. I still do not know the answer but as the soloist continued to sing, God reminded me that He has a plan. I have included the words to the chorus.


Trusting Him, Warren

Friday, July 9, 2004 6:25 PM CDT

Well it is time to bring you up to date on the latest on the kidney situation. After last Fridays Lasic Renogram (sp)We meet with Dr. Uke and he explained that the left kidney was again blocked and not functioning properly.He then suggested that it is good news that the kidney is still hurting, because that means that it is at least trying to process the poisions from the blood. We then scheduled a removal and replacement of the left stent on Tuesday the 13th of July. It is to be one day surgery at Methodist Hospital. Further Chemo will need to be moved back a couple of weeks.
Thanks for your continued prayers for all of us here at the Gilder family.


Thursday, July 1, 2004 10:45 AM CDT

The past couple weeks have been very discouraging. The doctors have attributed the kidney problems to the cancer although there isn't any evidence of cancer growth showing up on the CT scans. Their explanation is that this type of cancer grows in thin sheets that aren't thick enough to show up on the CT scan. So, they wanted Warren to start chemo again as soon as possible.

Warren started chemo again yesterday. However, in the test prior to chemo they found that there is still some problem with kidney function. So they couldn't give one of the three chemicals. This isn't all bad in some ways as this is the one that is thought to cause some of the worst side-effects (nausea, etc.).

Warren has a further test on Friday morning to hopefully determine what is happening with his kidneys. It is called a lasics renogram (unsure of spelling). This will assist the doctors in determining if there is a further need to deal with the kidneys.

Tuesday, June 15, 2004 10:16 PM CDT

This will be short as I (Kath) am exhausted. We were hoping that Warren would be able to get in early today for the surgery (putting the two stents in), but they weren't able to get him in until around 4 this afternoon. They had changed his pain medication late last night, so he was more comfortable today as we waited.

The good news is that the stents went in easily and are doing the job. The kidneys are draining and although they will continue to watch him closely throughout the night, they anticipate that he will be able to come home tomorrow.

There are still a lot of questions to be answered but he is out of danger for now. We will see the oncologist on Thursday and hopefully figure more out then.

Thank you for your prayers and encouragement.

Monday, June 14, 2004 10:19 PM CDT

Hi, This is Kath updating the page this time.

Our trip continued to go very well until last Wednesday, June 9. We were in Albuquerque, New Mexico and Warren woke up to pain in his lower back on the right side. We made it okay to Colorado Springs and our good friends the Hanks' home that night. But by the time we were done with dinner Warren was in such pain that we had to go into the emergency room. They did some testing and found an indication that there was some problem with his kidney function, but the CT scan didn't show any tumor or cancer growth. They gave him some pain medication and sent him home.

To make a long story relatively short, we drove home Friday and Saturday and went right to urgent care Saturday afternoon. They did some checking and determined it was not improving so said to come back on Sunday and they would check the creatinen level again. It was up more, so they put him in the hospital.

At this point, the oncologists are not seeing anything to indicate that it is cancer-related. So, tomorrow morning (Tuesday, June 15)the urologist will put two stents in his ureters to allow the kidneys to drain properly. Then they will be able to determine what needs to be done from there. It is possible it is scar tissue from the surgery last August.

I'll update you when we know more. Although we don't know exactly what the result will be, we are very thankful that the cancer appears to continue to be under control. God is very very good to us. He shows us every day how much He loves and cares for us. Thank you for your continued prayers.

Sunday, June 6, 2004 9:41 PM CDT

We are now in Sierra Vista, AZ. We are not used to to the hot weather. 107 degrees is too hot for us northerners. We did a little hiking up Ramsey Canyon (see the picture of us by the sycamore tree). This is publicized as the hummingbird capitol of the world.

You may be wondering about the picture on the main page. While in Oxnard Warren, Cindy, John and Kath got a little crazy with streaking their hair one day. We have no explanation other than heat stroke (?) But we have some great memories and other pictures which will be useful for blackmail at some point in time.

Tomorrow we will drive up to Phoenix where John and Cindy will fly back to Illinois on Tuesday morning.

Where do we go from there? Lots of possibilities are being tossed around. We may stop by Mt. Rushmore, Estes Park, etc.

We continue to thank God for taking such good care of us. Warren continues to feel really good. We have enjoyed seeing His glorious creation from the ocean to the mountains.

Thanks again for your continued prayers.

Thursday, June 3, 2004 9:06 PM CDT

It has been several weeks since I have updated this page. I am happy to report that I am still feeling so much better than I was when I was taking Chemo treatments.
Kath and I are in the middle of a 3 week road trip. we are currently vacationing with my sister and her husband in Oxnard Ca. It has been quite a road trip so far. We started out visiting with my aunt Esther in Nebraska. Then we visited with friends Sharon and Dave Hanks in Colorado Springs. Sharon rode with us to California to visit her daughter. For several days we were also with my nephew Bryan Smith who is a Marine stationed in San Diego Ca. We leave California to visit my father in Arizonia and begin the trek back home.

Friday, May 14, 2004 7:39 AM CDT

The last few weeks I have been feeling extremely well. It is amazing to me how much better I feel now that I do not have so much poison flowing thru my body. I have to go to the doctor's office today to have my port flushed, so that it does not fill with blood clots and become unusable. I would not mind if I never had to use it again, but I may need it if I have to get more chemo. The pain and nuisance of having the port replaced outweighs the inconvenience of getting it flushed and cleaned out. This is the first time in a month that I will have been to the cancer clinic. That sure beats weekly visits as I had to do for over seven months.

My daughter and I went to visit my sister in Florida last week and we were able to spend a week with her and her family. Her youngest child graduated from kindergarten and oldest son also graduated from fifth grade. Her oldest child also passed her driving test, while I was down there. She also has a son that will finish third grade. Her husband works for the bible based theme park (The Holy Land Experience). I was amazed at how little they ate, as I am sure they were amazed at how much I ate.

Wednesday, April 28, 2004 8:12 AM CDT

I have decided that I will change these pages at least once a week, at least for the next few months, since nothing much will be changing with the cancer. (So you can assume that "No news is Good news") The next CT scan is scheduled for mid June. At that time we will determine what the next steps will be. I have changed a few photos in the album Warren

Friday, April 23, 2004 8:45 PM CDT

Kathleen and I with several friends went to visit Brianna at the Wilmar Regional Treatment Center where she currently resides. She continues to have problems with her behaviors but she was well behaved during the time of our visit.
Nothing new to report on the cancer front. Just that I am very pleased to be off the Chemo, and have begun to feel better and I am becoming reacquainted with the proper taste of things.

Warren Gilder

Friday, April 23, 2004 8:24 AM CDT

Continue to pray for my daughter Tiffany and her family on the homegoing of her mother Lori Jean Pike Halloran. Lori entered the streets of heaven on Thursday April 22 at 9:24 pm. It was a very bittersweet time for Lori's family and friends. It has been very difficult to watch Lori struggle to breathe over the last few days As Family and friends gathered around her hospital room some were speculating upon what it was like for Lori in heaven, who she was tslking with, what practical jokes she was planning, and what she would do first.
Warren Gilder

Wednesday, April 21, 2004 6:16 AM CDT

Please pray for my daughter's mother Lori Halloran she is struggling with breast cancer and seems very near the end. As I spent time at the hospital yesterday with Tiffany and her family, I was gratefull that Lori and many of her family know the Lord and are looking to him for comfort, guidance, and strength. I have enclosed a link to her web page. (see below)

Friday, April 16, 2004 10:59 AM CDT

This morning I had a consultation with my Doctor (Martin Lee) about my CT scan and he said that everything looks good and that there is no new growth and there remain just a slight thickening of the stomach lining but that can sometimes be attributed to other things. He recommended that I have the Chemo Pump removed and the port flushed since it was slightly red around the neddle site. Praise the Lord I am off of the Chemo completly.(I have missed only three weeks in the last seven and a half months.)I will remain off of it for at least 2 months, unless the cancer start growing wildly. I have another CT scan scheduled for June 11th. At that time we can determine if I can remain off of the Chemo or if it makes sense to start the massive treatments again. I would love to remain off of it for as long as I can.
One thing I am learning is that every day is precious and a gift from our father above. Kath took the day of work wednesday as we both had doctor appointments. After that we went shopping and just enjoyed being together. Laughter still reigns supreme in our house.
Continue to pray for my daughter Tiffany and her family. Her mother is still in ICU at Unity Hospital in Coon Rapids. Here is a link to her web page.

Thursday, April 15, 2004 6:37 AM CDT

Today is tax day. I hope and trust that you are ready for the taxman.
Yesterday I had a CT scan of the abdomen and the pelvic regions. (I think I shall invent a barium solutions that tastes like a cheeseburger.) Tomorrow I see the doctor to find out what the CT shows.
Kath is planning to take a leave of absence from her job at Medtronic. As a result, we plan on taking several road trips to visit friends and relatives.
Thanks to one and all that have left messages in the guestbook. We have enjoyed reading them and it remind both Kath and Warren of how God has blessed us with such with such wonderful freinds and family.
Prayer requests:
1)My daughter Tiffany's mother (Lori) is suffering with breast cancer. Please pray that God will heal her or give her grace as she has entered a critical stage. Lori is in the hospital today with breathing problems. The cancer has spread throughout her body (lungs,liver,and brain).
2)Warren has noticed that his body is itching everywhere. Please pray for relief.

Sunday, March 21, 2004 10:31 PM CST

Warren has completed six cycles of chemo therepy. The Doctors have been impressed at how well that Warren has done on the Chemo. He has been able to regain some of the weight that he lost during the round of surgeries last summer. (Is that a good thing?) The last CT and PET scans (November) showed that the tumors were shrinking and that the stomach walls were thinning to normal levels.
However the doctors are quick to remind him that as soon as he stops the chemo the cancer cell and tumors will return with a vengence.
Never the less Warren has decided to take some time off from the Chemo (2-6 months) A CT scan has been scheduled for Aoril 14th. Warren will meet with the Doctor on the 16th and determine just how long a time off is appropriate.

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